Tim is seven

My grandson was seven this week and it make me wonder what his life will be like 20 years forward.I have a lot of faith in the ability of people to overcome most things , but the political landscape  is ugly and don't seem to improve. The country is split and without leadership I don't see much improvement in the future . All I hear are shrill voices , from both sides. we have become so political correct , we can't even have a decent debate of the issues .The debt conversation in Washington has drown out all other issues. The 24 hour new cycle is over bearing and , if you want a clear look at the issues in this country and elsewhere you must look at the news links from outside the USA and than you must apply a filter .I think if the news media would undress the folks in power local and national without bias we would see better governance. My rant for this morning!

The house sell fell Thur, I took a tough stance not knowing all the fact about the bidders and lost the deal, live and learn. I will not make the same mistake again (i hope) Things happen for the best in most cases. We are going to SC next week and look around once more . If we run across something that makes sense we may try to move anyway.
VJ is pushing this move and I am not sure what is driving it ??

Vj is doing fine , except her balance is gone and she cannot move very far without falling . Her speech is also become very hard to understand.Her MEDS are unchanged since the Dimeabon study ended in failure.She maintains the good outlook and attitude so we are blessed.

My friend Dianne passed away a few week ago and I didn't know she was sick until I saw the obit in the Raleigh paper. I didn't see her but we exchanged email and she never said a word about being sick and when i ask how she was doing she always said great and ask about VJ: I will miss her.

Mom has been home a month and yesterday was her 1st day to be by her self, she seem to be fine. I plan to ride over today and take her to brunch. I think she and her sister , who was staying with her found the house got smaller and smaller.
The summer has been brutal so far and the lake is at its lowest level since we have been living here. Golf game up and down

.I am leaving the hospital board after 13 years and they ask me what kind of rocking chair i wanted as retirement gift. I told them I don't want a rocking chair , but i will take a new set of golf club. They had not heard that before . They ask were did i wish to have my retirement dinner , I told them to forget the dinner, I was leaving and there didn't need to be a dinner. It is interesting they are willing to spend a lot of $$ for my retirement  ,but only if it follow the set tradition -go figure

Life is good!

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Start on new life

We have a couple who wishes to buy our house and from my I am told can afford to do so, two problems one they want to buy at a lower price than we are willing to take and two they are talking 30 day close .Reality has arrived what the hell do i do if they meet our price ? During the decision process to sell and making the property ready it was way off in the future but when the agent calls and tell you she has an offer and by the way the buyer has sold their house and need the house at close ! Were would we go and what to do ?? A new page with new opportunities can we make a new life in Charleston ? what are the challenges we face' we only know the kids is that enough I I am a people person and VJ has become withdrawn  when it comes to people . Do we jump in and buy a property , I don't think so. where do we settle in a community as big as Charleston . If VJ's health was good this would be a breeze , but now maybe it will be tougher. I am going to need to find something to keep my mind working  , now that I am leaving the hospital BOC and with a move would also be leaving the banking commission.I guess I can find something in another place ?

Mom is home and doing great, I think she will be back to normal in another60 days. Vj is holding her own , we depend on her transport chair a lot when out and about. While at a mall this week she lost an expense bracelet , no hope of finding it. she want to get another . she want to maintenance she appearance and i want her to ,it make her happy and that is good , but at a point I must make her see there are limits to what we can do. Her attitude is still super , but she will not get far from me outside this house.

Hot summer so far , golf game is OK , can't get below a 10 , but I could be working and from my I am told the banking business is not  the place to be right now

Life is good.

 

Old Memories

I have put up a new profile pic , which was taken in Naples  harbor in 1964 . I knew at the time life was good and I didn't have a worry in my head except hit the beach find a good time . A good time was beer and woman simple right. The path from there to here is very easy to follow , but i am not sure  how &;and  why  I made some of the decisions which lead to this time and place I find my self today .

The 60's was a great time to be young and traveling around the world even if it required military service , the prior years I saw & and; and; experienced the pacific island and the far east , spent a year in San Francisco all before my 20th birthday and I did have a good time everywhere I stopped .The Russians caused a problem in Cuba and that did take us  to a little more serious activities, in those days we saw a communist behind every bush .We spent a lot of time  in and around Cuba looking for them , not sure I ever saw one .

The decision I made over the year were not always made based on good facts or good thought process , sometime the good times as described above drove the decisions , some times when faced with a cross roads I think I just flipped a coin .I did make a lot of good choices along the way , but as I look back and think what if I had done this instead of that .If a person could chart all the decision made in a life time , WOW

I have often thought about listing in order the places I have been and than start back filling what i remember about what happen in those place ,  may do that one day , I could clean it up for family consumption and years from now the next generation may find the experiences worth reading ??

I already see in this short post  that  that listing all the place without dicussion of the decision process may be best left for another time , maybe next winter

Shopping

Took VJ to the Mall today for lunch and shopping . We visited one store and you would think Norm had returned to cheers , they all knew her and were so glad she had come in. The girl is in a wheel chair , but can still shop with the very best . She bought four pieces and I think at this point only one is going back . She always buy something to take back, it require a return trip right . I let her think i don't follow her plan , but after 30+ year together I get it.It's OK with me  she can afford it  and even if she never wear some of the cloths which is a real possibility it is OK .

Not much to report ,the Kid were here last week end and we had a good time , the boys caught lots of fish and HG is so good for a 21/2 year old.The boys are growing so fast it will not be long before they are gone and I hope they & I; I have the same relationship their  father has with him grandmother and grandfather.

Mom is back home from rehab the result of a broken leg bone . she had easy surgery if there is such a thing for a 87 year old  , but the after surgery issue related to the anesthesia was a trip for her and us. I understand it is an issue in most old patients. WHEN ARE YOU CONSIDERED AN OLDER PATIENT? She is home and we will made a few modification to her house and I think it will be a matter of a little time and she will be back good as new. We have someone with her the first month.

We had an interesting time when we ask her to give me a POA and me & and; KJ a living will , no problem with the full POA , but she want to be assured we didn't plan to pull the plug on her life support.

I got my last check from FCB for my consulting contract and I have given notice to the hospital authority that I am gone at the end at the end of this term (SEPT) My point is I will need to find something else to keep my mind occupied. Someone ask if I want to apply for the town managers job , what the hell do I know about that subject   not much  , but may be more than the folk doing it now.

We continue to have inquire about the house , but I don't think even If a buyer were out there the mortgage $$ can be found, not sure what me VJ& the cat would do in the short term if the house sold.

Still have not heard from son #2 , not sure what the issue is or really how to handle it . he has a birthday in a month and I will try reaching out again. I would note this is the same thing that happen with him and his mother ???

Golf game is up∧down but beats sitting in the house , try to play in the AM before VJ gets active. she seem to be stable , but her balance has gone south and she need a wheel chair to move any distance .She maintaining a great attitude and other than sleeping( very restless) we get by great.

Life is good.!